I want to talk today about something that might seem trivial to some, but bare with me I get to a point. I want to talk about Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston.
First I think it’s important that I confess I am a Taylor Swift fan. I have been since I was 12, I’m now 22. That’s 10 years of my life devoted to one thing. You probably are thinking that clouds my judgement on anything related to her, but you know I think it makes me extra critical in a thoughtful way. If you hate something everything that person does is more likely to make you hate them more, it’s self perpetuating. But when you love something, you hold it to a higher standard. You have greater expectations of it or them. Then if this person you love messes up, you feel let down, they break your heart, and have further to fall.
Let me be clear, Taylor has not let me down. Honestly I think she’s done something wildly ordinary, fallen in love more than once.
I follow multiple Taylor Swift fan tumblr/twitter/instagram fan accounts, but you know where I hear more about Taylor from? From the people who claim they don’t like, and therefore don’t care about her.
So let’s talk Hiddleswift shall we? Since it’s all I seem to hear these days.
I’m actually quite quiet about my Taylor Swift love. Mostly because I’m tired of hearing the negative things people have to say about her. It’s often unwarranted, but wow the tidal wave of unwarranted hate about Hiddleswift.
It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I need to do something I don’t ever do… weigh in on the issue.
I have been that girl, that girl who is dating someone and then very quickly after it ends starts dating someone else. So what? It was what was right for me at the time. Why does dating someone new quickly after you broke up with someone else invalidate that relationship? The simple answer is it doesn’t. Both relationships can matter to you, one just didn’t work out and one is working out.
Here’s the difference, I’m not famous. No one was out taking our pictures of us, and I could hold off on posting about it on social media until a time when it was deemed more appropriate to be dating that person, as if hiding when it started changed anything. It didn’t.
But Taylor and Tom can’t do that, they can’t hide when they started dating because they’re being followed… constantly.
A lot of people have used this as a reason to accuse the whole thing of being a publicity stunt. People would have found out no matter what they did? So if they did stage those first couple of pictures announcing their relationship, why not? At least then it was on their terms. They’re going to be followed everywhere they go, are we really going to start accusing people of staging a relationship because they sit in front of windows.
I feel like an “I <3 T.S.” shirt is less of a stunt, and more of a statement to get off his back.
But I digress…
When a couple breaks up what is the appropriate amount of time to wait before they are allowed to start dating someone else? A week? A month? Six months? A year? Or would people judge Taylor Swift no matter what because she’s Taylor Swift and they want to make their jokes.
For whatever reason when people talk about Taylor Swift and point fingers at her they forget about their own romantic lives. Right now I’m in a relationship, and I’m very happy in that relationship but before we met I had had six different men I had at one point called my boyfriend, and others I’d been on dates with. Then I also have friends who have never had a boyfriend, or friends who have had one. None of those numbers diminish their worth or mean they should be made fun of.
Falling in love is so wonderful, and if you’re going to be made of fun for it no matter what you do, and people are going to find out no matter how hard you try to hide it, why not just put it out there in the open? Way out there in the open.
So move quickly in your lives, whether it be from relationship to relationship or school to a job or a job back to school or from country to country as you travel across the world, move Swiftly friends.
Or you know what? Take time and move slowly, plan out your next move and decide what’s best for you based on that moment and based on the long run. Your happiness is your decision, and someone else’s happiness is also not your decision.
Happy Tuesday xx
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